A coworker recently asked me, “When was the last time you said the word _____ (an expletive)?” I thought for a second and I said, “I don’t remember.” Later, I shared this interchange in my church small group. The next time our group met, one group member brought up an important point: How do we reach non-believers if they can’t relate to us? The answer is, we can’t. So, I think there’s a few basic ways we can make sure we are relatable:

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Don’t isolate yourself from the culture. Without violating your conscience or dabbling in obvious sin, know what’s going on out there. Share your natural interests – whether it be camping, sports, reading books, etc. – with the non-believers you rub shoulders with regularly. And be able, to some degree, to discuss current events, news, entertainment – you get the idea. Show people that you’re human. That as a Christian, you also love nature, or travel, or whatever it is. You don’t just go to church all the time.

Second, show interest in the people you know who don’t know Christ yet. Ask them about themselves – their background, what they did last weekend, what restaurants they like to go to. My observation in this culture is that many have lost the art of conversation, or never learned it in the first place. You will be a breath of fresh air to someone just by showing interest in their lives. There is a Christ-like quality in that.

Thought: Can non-believers relate to you, on some level? Can you relate to them?